Art Galleries You Need to Visit in Makati City

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Makati City is most known for its central business district, but it also offers an interesting variety of art galleries. We have visited some this 2021 despite the pandemic!

Since the listed galleries below are all located near one another, you can visit them all within a day. This is not an all-inclusive list and we may do another series of visits to different galleries within the city. (There are many more galleries to visit in the area!)

Disclaimer: Before going to the galleries, please check local guidelines for social distancing. Better yet, check in with the galleries via social media if you can book an appointment for viewing.

Modeka Art
https://modeka.space/
Warehouse 20A La Fuerza 1, 2241 Don Chino Roces Avenue, Makati City

Happy People- Frelan Gonzaga
The Philosophy of Color
CRIS VILLANUEVA JR
Televised
a somewhat controversial exhibit

Vinyl on Vinyl
https://www.vinylonvinylgallery.com/
2241 La Fuerza 1, Chino Roces Avenue, Makati Philippines

Jellyfish Kisses
Vinyl on Vinyl upper deck
The Mind is Evil
Maria by KLARIS
Maria by KLARIS
Final answer: Not required

Finale Art File
https://finaleartfile.com/
Warehouse 17, La Fuerza Plaza (Gate 1),
2241 Chino Roces Avenue, Makati City
Monday to Saturday, 10AM to 7PM

New Ending, Old Story – Kim Oliveros
Kim Oliveros
Kim Oliveros
Bato Bato sa Langit – Rocelie Delfin

White Walls Gallery
https://whitewallsgallery.art/
Warehouse 12A, La Fuerza Plaza,
2241 Chino Roces Ave., Makati City

Figura- Kim Santiago
Of Clowns and Unicycles – group show
at the installation
More Kim Santiago

Silverlens Galleries
https://www.silverlensgalleries.com/
2263 Don Chino Roces Avenue Extension, Makati City 1231
Tuesday – Saturday, 8:30am – 4:30pm

Awake: Word Paintings by Chati Coronel
Particle Collider I – Gary-Ross Pastrana
Installation: Things that came to light
Mars: CourageXLoveXHope
Things that came to light- Gary-Ross Pastrana
Volume- Micaela Benedicto
Installation: Things that came to light- Gary-Ross Pastrana
Gary-Ross Pastrana
Gary-Ross Pastrana
Venus: Impossible Flowers Bloom in Impossible Landscapes

Art Cube Gallery
https://www.artcubephilippines.com/
2/F Building B, Karrivin Plaza, 2316 Chino Roces Avenue Extension,
Makati City
Tuesday to Saturday
9AM-5:30PM

86,400 – PJ Cabanalan
The World That Was- JAPS Antido
UGMAD- Michael Delmo

Art Informal
http://www.artinformal.com/
The Alley at Karrivin
2316 Chino Roces Avenue Extension, Makati City
Tuesday to Saturday
10 AM to 7 PM

Five Gardens by Geraldine Javier
Geraldine Javier
Geraldine Javier
Geraldine Javier
Gertrude Jekyll ( The Earth was Her Canvas I)
Geraldine Javier
Geraldine Javier
Geraldine Javier
Bones for Jarman

All galleries are located in Don Chino Roces Avenue, Makati City. See map below:

Let me know in the comments if you have already done this! If you have questions, feel free to email me or connect with me on Instagram.

Have fun and stay safe!

How Moving Goalposts Sabotages your Progress

Moving goalposts is like running a marathon with an ever-shifting finish line. You put in all the hard work, you sweat and bleed, but just when you think you’re getting close, the line moves again. It’s enough to drive anyone mad. In my experience, this phenomenon is not limited to any particular domain – it can happen in love, work, and all the spaces in between. Perhaps the most frustrating part of it all is that it seems to happen without rhyme or reason. But then again, what in life truly makes sense? All we can do is keep moving forward, keep trying our best, and hope that someday the goalposts will stay put.

From a logical perspective, this behavior is considered a type of fallacy called the “no true Scotsman” fallacy. This happens when someone modifies the definition of a term or concept to exclude certain cases that do not fit their argument. In the case of moving the goalposts, the original criterion for success is modified after the fact, making it impossible for someone to succeed based on the initial expectations.

Moving the goalposts can be unfair and can damage trust and communication in relationships, or hinder progress in academic or professional settings. It’s important to establish clear and specific goals, communicate them effectively, and avoid changing them arbitrarily to avoid negative effects on others.

Here are some ways that moving goalposts can sabotage your progress:

It makes it hard to measure progress:

When the criteria for success keeps changing, it can be difficult to measure progress accurately. It becomes challenging to know whether you are on track or not, which can lead to frustration and demotivation.

It erodes confidence:

Moving goalposts can lead to a sense of never being good enough. When you feel like you can never meet the expectations set for you, it can be demoralizing, and you may begin to question your abilities.

It leads to burnout:

If you keep working towards a goal that keeps moving, it can be exhausting. The constant sense of striving and never achieving can lead to burnout, which can be detrimental to your overall well-being.

It decreases motivation:

Moving goalposts can be demotivating. If you feel like you can never reach the finish line, why bother trying? This lack of motivation can lead to procrastination and a sense of apathy towards your goals.

It can damage relationships:

If you are constantly moving goalposts in a team environment, it can damage relationships with colleagues. It can be frustrating for others to keep up with the changes and may lead to resentment.

Moving goal posts can sometimes be a bit frustrating. It’s like trying to hit a moving target, and just when you think you’ve got it, the target moves again! It can be demotivating and make it challenging to achieve your goals. This can happen in different areas of life, like in personal relationships or academic or professional settings.

If you find yourself moving the goalposts or engaging in other behaviors that sabotage your progress, there are steps you can take to break the cycle and get back on track. Here are some tips:

Set realistic goals:

One of the main reasons people sabotage their progress is because they set unrealistic goals. When you set goals that are too difficult or unattainable, it’s easy to become discouraged and give up. Instead, set achievable goals that challenge you but are also realistic.

Hold yourself accountable:

Take responsibility for your own progress and hold yourself accountable. Don’t blame external factors or other people for your lack of progress. Instead, focus on what you can control and take action to move forward.

Practice self-compassion:

It’s easy to become self-critical and beat yourself up when you fall short of your goals. However, this can be counterproductive and demotivating. Instead, practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself when you make mistakes or encounter obstacles.

Get support:

Don’t be afraid to ask for help and support from others. This can include friends, family, colleagues, or a coach or mentor. Having someone to talk to and bounce ideas off of can be incredibly helpful in keeping you motivated and on track.

Celebrate your successes:

It’s important to celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. This can help you stay motivated and feel good about your progress, which can in turn fuel further success.

Remember, progress is not always a straight line and setbacks are a normal part of the process. By taking a positive and proactive approach to your goals, you can overcome obstacles and achieve success.

April 29, 2023 0

What is CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and tips to apply it in your life

CBT is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on changing negative thoughts and behaviors to improve mental health and well-being. It has been shown to be effective in treating a wide range of mental health conditions, including anxiety, depression, and PTSD.

One of the great things about CBT is that it empowers people to take control of their own mental health. By learning techniques to identify and challenge negative thought patterns, individuals can develop a greater sense of self-awareness and make positive changes in their lives.

Another important aspect of CBT is that it is a short-term, goal-oriented therapy. This means that clients work with their therapist to set specific, achievable goals and develop a plan to reach them. This can be incredibly helpful in providing a sense of direction and purpose during a challenging time.

Overall, CBT is an evidence-based treatment that has helped countless individuals improve their mental health and quality of life. If you’re struggling with negative thoughts or behaviors, I highly encourage you to consider working with a trained CBT therapist. It could be the first step towards a happier, healthier you!

Here are some CBT mental health practices that you can do daily:

1. Identify and challenge negative thoughts:

Pay attention to your thoughts throughout the day, and when you notice a negative thought, challenge it by asking yourself if it’s really true, if there’s evidence to support it, and if there’s a more positive or realistic way to think about the situation.

2. Practice gratitude:

Take time each day to reflect on things that you’re grateful for. This can help shift your focus from negative thoughts to positive ones and improve your mood.

3. Set achievable goals:

Break down larger goals into smaller, achievable steps. This can help you avoid feeling overwhelmed and make progress towards your goals.

4. Use positive self-talk:

Be kind and encouraging to yourself and use positive self-talk to counteract negative thoughts. For example, instead of saying “I’m a failure,” say “I’m doing the best I can, and I’ll keep working towards my goals.”

5. Practice relaxation techniques:

Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization can help reduce stress and anxiety.

6. Engage in enjoyable activities:

Make time for activities that you enjoy, such as hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or exercise. Engaging in enjoyable activities can boost your mood and improve your overall well-being.

7. Challenge avoidance behaviors:

If you find yourself avoiding certain situations or activities due to fear or anxiety, challenge yourself to gradually face those fears and participate in those activities. This can help reduce anxiety over time and improve your confidence.

Remember, practicing CBT techniques daily takes time and effort, but it can lead to significant improvements in your mental health and overall well-being. If you’re struggling to implement these practices on your own, consider seeking the help of a mental health professional who can guide you through the process.

One great example of this is Bloom. I have personally used this and applied the techniques to soothe myself during a difficult time in my life. Let me tell you some things about Bloom.

The Bloom app is a mobile app that offers a personalized and convenient way to practice CBT, which is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on changing negative patterns of thinking and behavior. With the Bloom app, you can learn CBT techniques and apply them to your daily life to improve your mental well-being.

The app offers a variety of features, including interactive exercises, journaling prompts, and audio sessions, all designed to help you manage your thoughts and emotions. The exercises are based on proven CBT techniques, such as cognitive restructuring and behavioral activation, and are tailored to your specific needs and goals.

One of the great things about the Bloom app is that it offers a way to practice CBT on the go. You can use the app whenever and wherever you need it, whether that’s on your morning commute, during your lunch break, or before bed. The app also tracks your progress over time, so you can see how you’re improving and adjust your goals accordingly.

Another benefit of the Bloom app is that it’s user-friendly and intuitive. The exercises are easy to understand and can be completed in just a few minutes, making it easy to incorporate CBT into your daily routine. Plus, the app offers a supportive and encouraging community of users who can offer tips, advice, and support along the way.

Bloom app is definitely worth checking out!

April 28, 2023 0

Why We Write ONLY During Tough Times

Do you ever notice that whenever you feel like your world is falling apart, you suddenly turn into a master writer? Your emotions are rapidly translated into words on your paper, and they just flow like a strong unstoppable tidal wave. Emotions are a powerful tool in fostering creativity.

You suddenly have the voice of a thousand people, and you can’t help but pour the words into paper. Powerful emotions throw away our inhibitions. Writing in a vulnerable position expands your range of emotions- from anger to guilt to remorse to jealousy to any other emotion that feel unnatural to us.

“Don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to make it logical; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.”
Franz Kafka

When you are happy, you don’t rationalize being happy. When you are happy, you don’t ask questions like, “Why is this happening to me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?”. We accept happiness as a welcome emotion.

For example, when your dear friend arrives at your house with an excited and cheerful face, the first thing you will probably say is “come on in” instead of “what are you doing here?”. We have placed a premium on the “feel good” emotions and neglected to place value on the other emotions on the spectrum. Tough times bring the most uncomfortable of feelings and it is when we start asking questions laden with an unwelcome emotion that we tend to overthink. Because we ruminate on every little thing, we tend to want to keep record of our “sufferings” and “analysis” of our situation. I tell myself that one day I will look back on these and somehow there are lessons that I have written that I didn’t realize then.

For me writing when you are happy provides a completely different written material compared to the writing when I feel terrible. I find a little more character and depth. ~~(This is not to glamorize creative suffering)~~. This is expressing the truth of your experiences. You may compartmentalize your feelings into a specific written material and then let it go. You may feel relieved knowing that this part of you is expressed and preserved.

Writing is a form of therapy. This is the release. This is the catharsis. It helps you probe your own thoughts without a filter. It gives you an opportunity to realize and release these emotions, without having to share it with another person. Of course, a friend (or a therapist) is helpful to unravel your thought patterns but writing (and journaling) allows you to get to know yourself a bit better. It allows you to stay in your feelings and explore the depths of your situation.

September 7, 2022 0

How To Not Take Things Personally

Taking an attack where there isn’t one is one of the hardest things that we may be faced with. When we realize that nobody is out there to target us, we free ourselves from the burden of feeling hurt.

“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.”
Carl Jung

Don’t create story lines (mental movies) in your head
In other words, stop overthinking. Even the best of us overthink, it’s totally normal, but try not to elaborate on hypothetical scenarios going from point A to point Z. People generally don’t do things to spite other people. If a colleague or a friend has ignored you or was curt with you, don’t jump to conclusions on how they hate you. Usually, there is something going on with them or you caught them in a busy moment.

Be brave and ask
If there is something unclear or bothering you, spare no time and ask the person involved immediately. Sometimes leaving things be or ignoring the obvious problem would tear any relationship down over time. Opening-up and being honest, instead of being fake-polite, will clear any misunderstandings between you.

Learn to differentiate a neg from feedback
People see things that we can’t with ourselves. It’s called a Blind Spot. and because we are blind sided about ourselves, people offer their feedback. We can be a little unreceptive to this due to a number of reasons. Don’t be defensive. Be careful though, because some people offer up advice and say nasty things under the guise of “constructive criticism”. How to know if the feedback is valid? Take points only from people who you would ask for advice from.

The only opinion that matters is yours
People will say a lot of things about you. How you dress, how you cook, what your job is, where you live, what car you drive. All these things are projection. Projection is the mental process by which people attribute to others what is in their own minds. For example, individuals who are in a self-critical state, consciously or unconsciously, may think that other people are critical of them. When a person questions your lifestyle and makes judgement about you, most likely this same thing are things that they want for themselves. Don’t let anybody that resents you, make you question your beliefs about yourself.

Don’t think about it!
The last advice is to let the comments pass you and don’t think about it. People will say a lot of things and a lot of those they didn’t even think about. Don’t create a mental space for boring comments and park it in your head. People say things and it’s not that deep. Their opinions are really not about you- it’s about them.

August 31, 2022 2

Stay With Your Feelings

8 Steps to Acknowledge Your Feelings

Keeping our emotional health in check is a habit that we must cultivate. One of the ways that we stay emotionally healthy is by acknowledging the existence of our emotions both positive and negative. Unfortunately, we tend to disregard the emotions that make us feel “bad”. Over time we have accustomed ourselves to tune out these “bad feelings” and we’re left with an unfillable void in our mental space.

Feelings Vs. Emotions

Even though Feelings and Emotions are used synonymously, we must know their slight differences.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), emotion is defined as “a complex reaction pattern, involving experiential, behavioral and physiological elements.”

Feelings, on the other hand is “self-contained phenomenal experience. They are subjective, evaluative, and independent of the sensations, thoughts, or images evoking them.”

For the purpose of this article, feelings and emotions shall be used interchangeably.

Do you allow yourself to feel your feelings?

Below are eight steps to acknowledge and allow ourselves to feel the broad spectrum of your emotions.

Set aside a time to “feel your feelings”

Daily life can be a struggle and most of the times, it is hard to find time to relax let alone to face our emotions! The idea of confronting our demons and unravelling the reasons why we feel bothered and uncomfortable something seems like a counterintuitive task. Of course, we should just run away with any uncomfortable feeling and call it a day. But there is danger in letting emotions bottle up. Think of it as a daily check-in with yourself. What are the feelings that I experienced today? How did I handle myself in those situations? Is there something that I would change given I feel the same again in the future?

Realize that you are not selfish for feeling your emotions

One of the best gifts you can give yourself (and others) is self-awareness. You are not being selfish for having them, for understanding them, for trying to process them. Your feelings are unique to you and having the awareness of the emotions you feel and the behavior you exhibit is a gift to you and to others.

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.”
Socrates

Don’t focus on the “feeling”, focus on the sensations

This means being conscious of the sensations in your body. If you feel angry, how does the body react? Is it tense? Is your head hot? Is there a lump on your throat? If you’re sad, does your eyes droop a little and feel sleepy? Is your breathing shallow? One technique is called “Body Scan Meditation”. Body scan meditation is a form of mindfulness meditation where you scan your body for tension, tightness, pain, or anything out of the ordinary. This may be difficult to carry out when you’re not used to “checking in” with the body, but this essential tool is helpful in identifying how your body responds to your emotions.

Use an emotion wheel (Plutchik’s wheel of emotions)

Identifying your emotions is a complicated process. Sometimes, you feel happy or lonely. Most of the times you feel a spectrum of feelings all at the same time. Robert Plutchik is a German-born American who created a wheel of emotions to illustrate different emotions. There are also variations of this model that shows specific emotions. Refer to this wheel when you are having a tough time identifying what you really feel.

Explain the feelings to yourself
Imagine a friend is feeling the exactly the same way you do. You would stay with your friend and try to make things better, right? Staying with your feelings is an act of choosing to be a friend to yourself. This is not rationalizing your feelings. Explain to yourself the events that led to this, prior to those feelings. This is having a conversation with yourself about how you really feel. Saying things aloud makes it more real and tangible.

Be accountable.

Feeling your feelings is good but acting them out to others is not! Remember, you are responsible for your own feelings, only you. Help from a friend is great and could be insightful, but at the end of the day how you process your emotions is up to you. Don’t rally people behind you against another person, nor blame other people. Be accountable with your feelings. Own it.

Thank yourself and let it go
Once you’ve sat down and did one or two (or more!) of these exercises, thank yourself for being brave and facing your inner self. Imagine your emotions as a soft tangible object (butterfly, cloud, small wind, etc.) slowly moving away from you. Feelings pass by, they don’t stay long if you’ve acknowledged them head on.

Conclusion: Allowing yourself the necessity of identifying your emotions and allowing to feel them completely will help you understand yourself better. Staying with your feelings is an opportunity to get to know yourself a little better.

August 17, 2022 3

IKEA Philippines Shopping & Dining Tips!

Ikea recently opened its first store in the Philippines last November 25. Since then, people have been flocking to check the iconic concept store. It is said that it’s the biggest concept store in the world. Here’s a list of tips and guidelines you can follow to make the most out of your visit to this most-awaited store.

IKEA Shop & Dine With Me- Mini-vlog

Book a slot online

Ikea doesn’t allow for walk-in customer visits to ensure COVID-19 protocols are met. Make sure you arrive early on your appointment date. 1 booking allows for 2 guests.

Arrive on-site and wait in queue

Ikea concept store is located at Mall of Asia Complex, Marina Way, Pasay City. Ushers & marshals lets you wait in line 30-45 mins earlier than your appointment. Expect long lines. There is a priority lane for PWDs, Senior Citizens & pregnant women.

Get in and shop till you drop

General Reminders:

Wear comfortable shoes

The concept store is confusingly HUGE and you will really tire your feet out if you’re wearing sandals or heels. However, for PWDs and Senior Citizens, Ikea provides mobility access like wheelchairs.

Jacket/ Warm Clothing is a must

The store is freezing cold! Even if you walk all around, it’s still freezing.

Practice Social distancing

After the COVID-19 hit, I have never been with so many people gathered in one place. SO. MUCH. PEOPLE. The amount of people inside the store was initially overwhelming. Remembering I am fully vaccinated put my mind at ease.

Shopping at IKEA Philippines

4^th floor houses the concept stores. Here you’ll find curated pieces for different styles of home & living inspiration. This is also where the Swedish Restaurant is located.

3^rd floor is where you can pick & shop the items that you want. You can also check out the items at this floor. You’ll also find here Swedish Food Market, Swedish Bistro, & IKEA Café.

Generally, Ikea is a self-service shop. There is a designated area for packing fragile items before you check-out. Yes, it’s you who will do this. But there are sales assistants to help you with locating items and taking them out on shelves.

Lines are long even at check-out. For customers who purchased 10 items or lesser, a faster lane is provided. Make sure to bring your own shopping bag but shopping bags are available, starts at P40.00.

Dining at IKEA Philippines

The first thing we did upon passing entry was to get in line to eat at the Swedish Restaurant. The line was long and despite the poster warning us to stand in line for 2 hours, we got our seats after 45 mins.

*Poster of approximate waiting time at the Swedish Restaurant*

We ended up getting the famous Meatballs, Pomodoro Spaghetti, Marinated Salmon & Salad. The Pomodoro Spaghetti was bland for my taste. The famous meatballs were awesome as expected. What I really liked was the marinated salmon. *chef’s kiss* I was wondering the whole time if the salmon was farmed at Norway (~~not the best farming practice~~) and it turns out the seafood they use at IKEA are all sustainably sourced. #GREENFLAG

For the drinks, we had free flowing sparkling juice. There’s a selection of juices to choose from the drinking fountain.

Sparkling Nordic fruit water lemon
Sparkling Nordic fruit water pear
Sparkling Nordic water raspberry
Still Lingonberry drink

I didn’t like the fruit water lemon, but the best one for me was fruit water pear. Coffee is served at the restaurant as well, and it’s also free flowing.

As a self-service store, all customers are encouraged to put away their after-meal plates into a cart that they have provided. This also allows people from the queue to get a table faster.

Click here to see their full menu

Final notes

All in all, the experience was tiring AND fun! Interesting concept store definitely worth the visit if you’re looking for quality items and inspiration.

IKEA Philippines after dark

December 2, 2021 0

How To Overcome the Fear of Starting Something

It’s never easy to start something, especially if it requires us to learn new things and get out of our comfort zone. Be it starting a new business or leaving your current job or starting a new relationship. Below are some ideas that can help you navigate through this paralyzing emotion we call Fear.

Table of Contents

Admit your feelings
Be vulnerable
Let the worst happen
No such thing as small fears
Be all in
Build a Safety Net
You are not alone

Admit your feelings

Acknowledging the fear is probably the first big step in getting out of it. Let yourself *feel* this tricky emotion. The next step is to ask yourself what it is you are afraid of. There are no right or wrong answers to this. Whatever it is that you are afraid of, name it and know that these fears are totally valid.

Be vulnerable

This goes hand in hand with the previous one. Allow yourself to unravel. You’re the only one doing it for you. It’s NOT like you go on a stage and air your fears to the public. It’s just you and your fears. Nobody is going to hurt you if you let yourself feel. If anything, bottling up emotions will manifest in other totally unexpected ways.

Let the worst happen

This seems a bit counter-intuitive but bear with me here. While being objective, think about the worst that can happen. You want to start a Youtube vlog? What’s the worst that can happen? People not subscribing? Videos flopping? At the end of the day, you still put out good content and that’s what matters. Think of the worst thing and tell yourself, “SO WHAT?” You’re fine, you still have a roof over your head, and you can still eat. Really, starting something will not automatically capsize your life.

No such thing as small fears

You could be afraid of a butterfly or of losing your job or afraid that your date will ghost you afterwards, whatever it is that’s stopping your tracks because you are afraid, remind yourself that it’s okay to feel that way. These are just feelings; they come and go. No matter how small they are, if it hinders you from moving forward, you have to acknowledge it and not shove them under the carpet. Whether big or small, all those fears are valid. They are all part of you.

Be all in

I’m not saying dive headfirst and YOLO your way into your new venture. I’m saying that once you’ve decided that something is worth pursuing, be there along with your fears. It’s okay to take them with you. It’s actually wise to have a bit of uncertainty, in that way you become more discerning.

Build a Safety Net

A safety net means a safeguard against possible hardship or adversity. Think of it as risk reduction portfolio. A failsafe. Build that safety net first so you can move as freely as possible without having to worry about your basic needs.

You are not alone

Everyone has fears. I have it, your friend has it, your boss has it. It’s a universal human experience. Knowing this, you can seek help to people that inspires you or share your thoughts with people whom you trust. You totally got this!

Can you identify some fears that play out in your life right now? Do they move you into action or paralyze you? Feel free to use the journal templates below that I made just for you. Download it and upload to Instagram stories. You can also tag me if you like @ofloveandbeyond.

November 15, 2021 1

Everything That I Need, I Already Have

Online shopping really changed the game for consumption. Never has purchasing been this easy and quick. Adding to cart and checking out has probably become a habit.

A major revelation occurred to me when I was dumbstruck about what to wear. I have this event that I needed to be, and I thought to myself “I have nothing to wear” while staring into a full, bursting closet.

So I did what any other gal probably would have done, I bought clothes online. It took me a long while to choose what I would want and pressed ‘check out”. The package came days later, and I was happy about the purchase. The day of the event came and I couldn’t even wear the damn thing. It didn’t feel right. So I rummaged beneath the piles of my existing clothes and emerged from it holding pieces of clothing that I eventually wore to the event. Why did I even buy the new clothes in the first place?

It happened to me again with electronics. I bought a charger because I swear, I couldn’t find my existing one. When my new one came, my old charger magically appeared under heaps of paper. My point is, when you think you need something, instead of falling into the habit of online shopping, look first into your existing collection of items and extend your resourcefulness.

It may mean the ideal you have in your head could be different than the one you already own, but you can tweak it in a way that suits your needs. Online shops present their items as shiny and as ideal as possible. With a little resourcefulness and creativity, we can also *make* our things as shiny and as functional as possible.

I know it’s easier to just buy stuff online rather than tidying up your closet and checking every item you own. At some point, being resourceful and taking account of things you own, will be the only sustainable antidotes for impulsive consumerism.

Share your thoughts below.

November 3, 2021 1

How Not Letting Go Harms Us

Letting go could be hard, but holding on could also harm us. Like a handful sand, the more you try to grasp it, the harder it is to maintain it. Better to just let the tides take them back to where they belong to.

So why do we hold on to things that do not serve us, memories that unearth our pain and fantasies we keep replaying in our heads?

This is how we cope. We think it makes our lives easier. In reality, it keeps us prisoned in a blanket of safety, a blanket that’s familiar, a blanket of hope. These blankets are just illusions. They may make us feel safe but they actually turn our gaze from accepting the cold hard truth that these blankets do not exist.

The only remedy is to see the things, situations and people as what and who they really are. We have to see so that we know exactly what things we are making space for. Once the veil of illusion is lifted, we start to unravel parts of us that are attached to the past.

The hardest part is the sense of loss. When we sit within the void, we may be able to notice the things we want to bring within us, the things that can nurture us.

Take this moment to write down 1-3 things that you think you can let go of- things, relationships, or habits. Don’t overthink it, jot whatever comes to your mind. Write them down and set them free.

October 29, 2021 0

Easiest Way to Donate Your Stuff (online!)

Imagine this: You have so many different items lying around the house, unused and collecting dust. Suddenly, you have this strong urge to give them away. But, how do you actually donate your stuff?

Usually donation drives need a minimum number of items or specific items for donation, not to mention the documentation for it. You may opt to go to the donation sites like Segunda Mana and Goodwill, but boxing bulk items and organizing them can be a whole ordeal.

You start to think if there’s an easier alternative like “Here’s my stuff, you can take them.” Well, here’s how:

Facebook Decluttering Groups

There are a lot of decluttering groups on Facebook. You post the items that you want to donate, and wait if there are people who want to “adopt” the items you no longer need. Most of the times, the items that I find negligible turns out to be a big thing for others.

You can donate any kinds of stuff, from vacuum cleaners, to barely-used make up, school supplies, clothes, you can even donate food. You can also post in a “Looking For” thread, in which you ask for a specific item, and see if someone is willing to donate theirs.

Here’s a list of Facebook groups that I have used to declutter my items:

IMPORTANT TIPS for decluttering via Facebook groups:

Only donate items that are still functioning and useable

I know you want to lessen the burden of material things you have, but make sure that the person receiving the items will enjoy the things you donate. That means if the items are broken and unsalvageable, it’s not for donation- it’s for disposal.

Beware of scammers!

There are still lots of people who are taking advantage of people’s generosity. Some Facebook groups have the option of posting anonymously, so you as the donor can protect your privacy. Never share any personal information that are not relevant to the donation process. As an added safety measure, you can look up the recipient’s name and check if there are any “scammer alert” posts before you proceed with the donation.

Be polite and accommodating

Just because you are in a position to give away things that does not entitle you to be condescending. Always treat people with respect.

Remember that the donee must shoulder the delivery fees

It’s common practice for the recipient to shoulder (and arrange) the delivery of the donated items (You can book using Grab, Lalamove or Mr. Speedy). Most decluttering groups will discourage that the donor cover the delivery expenses. Hence, it’s advisable to choose the recipient that is nearest your location.

Always give with a happy heart

The feeling of giving something makes you feel just as much joy as receiving something. Check-in with yourself if your intentions for donating comes from a place of generosity.

That’s it! Let me know in the comments how your donation experience has been. If you have questions feel free to comment or connect with me on social media.

Happy donating!

October 27, 2021 2

Welcome to my new blog! ♥

blog launch announcement lizbethzaguirre.com

Hey friends! I am so thrilled to announce the launch of my personal & lifestyle blog, lizbethzaguirre.com!

The aim of this blog is reach out and hopefully resonate with people who want to make their lives more interesting through the exploration of art, culture, self-love & personal development.

I believe that the best relationship that you can have is the one you have with yourself.

I am in no way in the “best version of myself” yet. I believe that with the right support, each of us has a capacity to strive even further, to be a little bit kinder and a little bit wiser as we navigate our lives.

I’m mostly focused on writing, so I suggest you subscribe to my mailing list. In that way you get an email update once I post something on here, but you can also connect with me on my Instagram.

Always cheering on things ahead of us.

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of love and beyond