Why We Write ONLY During Tough Times

Do you ever notice that whenever you feel like your world is falling apart, you suddenly turn into a master writer? Your emotions are rapidly translated into words on your paper, and they just flow like a strong unstoppable tidal wave. Emotions are a powerful tool in fostering creativity.

You suddenly have the voice of a thousand people, and you can’t help but pour the words into paper. Powerful emotions throw away our inhibitions. Writing in a vulnerable position expands your range of emotions- from anger to guilt to remorse to jealousy to any other emotion that feel unnatural to us.

“Don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to make it logical; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.”

Franz Kafka

When you are happy, you don’t rationalize being happy. When you are happy, you don’t ask questions like, “Why is this happening to me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?”. We accept happiness as a welcome emotion.

For example, when your dear friend arrives at your house with an excited and cheerful face, the first thing you will probably say is “come on in” instead of “what are you doing here?”. We have placed a premium on the “feel good” emotions and neglected to place value on the other emotions on the spectrum. Tough times bring the most uncomfortable of feelings and it is when we start asking questions laden with an unwelcome emotion that we tend to overthink. Because we ruminate on every little thing, we tend to want to keep record of our “sufferings” and “analysis” of our situation. I tell myself that one day I will look back on these and somehow there are lessons that I have written that I didn’t realize then.

For me writing when you are happy provides a completely different written material compared to the writing when I feel terrible. I find a little more character and depth. (This is not to glamorize creative suffering). This is expressing the truth of your experiences. You may compartmentalize your feelings into a specific written material and then let it go. You may feel relieved knowing that this part of you is expressed and preserved.

Writing is a form of therapy. This is the release. This is the catharsis. It helps you probe your own thoughts without a filter. It gives you an opportunity to realize and release these emotions, without having to share it with another person. Of course, a friend (or a therapist) is helpful to unravel your thought patterns but writing (and journaling) allows you to get to know yourself a bit better. It allows you to stay in your feelings and explore the depths of your situation.


How Not Letting Go Harms Us

Letting go could be hard, but holding on could also harm us. Like a handful sand, the more you try to grasp it, the harder it is to maintain it. Better to just let the tides take them back to where they belong to.

So why do we hold on to things that do not serve us, memories that unearth our pain and fantasies we keep replaying in our heads?

What can I let go of today?

This is how we cope. We think it makes our lives easier. In reality, it keeps us prisoned in a blanket of safety, a blanket that’s familiar, a blanket of hope. These blankets are just illusions. They may make us feel safe but they actually turn our gaze from accepting the cold hard truth that these blankets do not exist.

The only remedy is to see the things, situations and people as what and who they really are. We have to see so that we know exactly what things we are making space for. Once the veil of illusion is lifted, we start to unravel parts of us that are attached to the past.

The hardest part is the sense of loss. When we sit within the void, we may be able to notice the things we want to bring within us, the things that can nurture us.

Take this moment to write down 1-3 things that you think you can let go of- things, relationships, or habits. Don’t overthink it, jot whatever comes to your mind. Write them down and set them free.


Welcome to my new blog! ♥

blog launch announcement

Hey friends! I am so thrilled to announce the launch of my personal & lifestyle blog,!

The aim of this blog is reach out and hopefully resonate with people who want to make their lives more interesting through the exploration of art, culture, self-love & personal development.

I believe that the best relationship that you can have is the one you have with yourself.

I am in no way in the “best version of myself” yet. I believe that with the right support, each of us has a capacity to strive even further, to be a little bit kinder and a little bit wiser as we navigate our lives.

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Always cheering on things ahead of us.